Usings Obedience’s point system to discipline and punish your submissive
This guest article was written by The_Branded on Fetlife originally titled “Making The Most Of Obedience p.1”
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By reading this blog you are likely already aware that the Obedience App is an amazing tool for any dynamic, there are no wrong ways of using the app, but it seems there are a lot of people who could be doing it better.
I have come up with some great hints and tips to make your journey on the app an even better experience than it already is!
Depending on your personal dynamics some of these might not apply to you. They might be perfect for you... BUT... in general, these are things that other subs/bottoms have highlighted to me when I’ve helped them adjust the app with their Dom.
For the sake of ease, I’m purely going to describe this with Dom being the person in charge of the app, with a sub having the tasks. There are so many different dynamics that work, but to keep it simple I’m going to explain it from this simple point of view.
Create achievable tasks for your sub
Set tasks you know your partner can complete. If you are trying to encourage your sub to eat and drink more, use realistic targets that won’t overwhelm them. Set a habit that they can reasonably achieve NOW. If they consistently reach these targets, you can evolve them in the future!
Keep your sub engaged with special tasks
This is a good way of keeping the app interesting and not becoming monotonous. Add something fun every now and then to keep your partner on their toes! For example, in December you could have a Christmas theme task that is an "Advent Calendar" where on each Monday, Wednesday and Friday of December, you will text them a one-off task to complete to do with Christmas. Again, this could be something sexy like "take a naughty picture with some tinsel" OR something self-care related like "take a bath with some Christmas scented candles and a good book"
Create worthy rewards for your sub on Obedience
They need to be things that the sub/partner WANTS at a value that is worth the points saved. With the way I give points, I worked out that it would take roughly 4 months for my partner to earn 1,000 points.
So, my BIG prize is listed at 1,000 points, because if they decide to save up, it’s not going to take a stupid amount of time to get there, they are not going to lose focus or get bored on the journey for something that feels totally unachievable.
How to create a variety of rewards for your sub
Big rewards a great, but I also recommend having some low-value, low-point prizes so that they can claim some rewards AND save at the same time and not feel like they are working towards nothing. My partner currently has 20 rewards to choose from ranging from 15 points to 1,000 points.
How to manage points and reward value on Obedience
Remember, there is no point in having prizes they don’t want or at a value that’s either too cheap or too expensive because they just won’t be worth it.
Create reasonable punishments for your sub
It's important that the punishments feel balanced for the task and are things that will help BOOST how your partner completed their activities.
If the punishments don’t suit the crime, your partner won’t want to use the app. For example, if they fail a daily task, the punishment can be ONE spank; with each task having its own body part.
One butt spank might not seem like a big punishment, but if they miss every day in a month, it’s suddenly 30. They soon add up.
How to scale punishments with tasks on Obedience
You can still use bigger punishments but make them scale with the habit. A failed daily task could be a single spank, a weekly task could be 20 cane strikes and a monthly task could be a full day of orgasm denial
How to help your sub create healthy habits
This app is an amazing tool to help improve their life and control their day-to-day without having to be physically present.
If all the tasks are just things you want for example "Send Me Daily Tit Pics", "Cook My Dinner Every Night", or "Wake Me Up With Head Every Day". These tasks then stop being about trying to improve their life and about you gaining from them.
If this is how your dynamic works, then that's obviously okay
How to set up your sub’s reward cost on Obedience
Work out how many points they will earn and give the reward values sensibly. Personally, I give low points per task, but the rewards are proportionately low.
For example, my partner earns up to 7 points a day by completing basic tasks… her rewards start at 15 points. Easy to earn and redeem if they want.
What I’ve seen in the past is subs earning 5 points a day and the lowest prize starts at 500 points. That makes it hard to achieve.
I've seen other dynamics where the Dom had each task worth 1,000 and he had her earning 7,000 points a day and her lowest prize was 15,000 points. This might sound exciting to begin with, but it devalues the points. It’s the same ratio. This removes the emotional value to a point.
It’s like when a country starts to print more money, everyone might have $ 1 million, but what’s the point when it means a loaf of bread is now worth $500,000
At the end of the day, there is NO right or wrong way to use the app, but the above points should be considered, and it will make your time with it much more worthwhile.
Try out this helpful community advice. Update your sub’s rewards, tasks, and punishments by logging in or signing up to Obedience App.
